Conditional love has it’s place. Feel free to disagree. πŸ˜‡πŸ€—πŸ‘©β€πŸ’»πŸ€πŸ’ž

Today I read something profound that Richard Rohr has written on conditional love versus unconditional love. I am going to form my own understanding in what he has to say about this and share it here with “my readers” the way I see this.

He says we need both….πŸ€”

He connected this idea/concept/truth to the mother and father he had. The one parent represented the “conditional” side : If you brush your teeth, you can watch this television programme. If you eat your vegetables, you can have dessert. If you do your homework, you can go play. (using my own examples here)

The other parent, had the attitude of almost everything goes. Nurturing more than rules. Listening more than reprimanding. Accepting more than punishment. The “unconditional” parent.

He says that he and his siblings tended to rather go to the “unconditional” one in times of trouble. But when structure, advice, guidance were needed, they called upon the “conditional” one’s wisdom and surety.


The rest of this writing is based on my own experiences, opinion and believe. You are welcome to stop reading and only go with above writing……never follow my “influence” blindly. – KAREN


Oh my goodness. How profound! How true! To me this simbolises the oneness of the Old Testament and the New Testament. The God of the Law (rules) in the Old Testament, together with the God of mercy and grace, Jesus Christ, in the New Testament. Didn’t Jesus say that He did not come to do away with or undo the Law or the Prophets, but to complete and fulfill them?!?! (Matthew 5:17)

Children tend to “favor” the one parent above the other. This has the potential to divide parent-authority or to damage a father-son, mother-daughter relationship. This brings unbalanced preverances…..the list of damage is endless and open for personal discussion.

Churches (today) tend to hammer their congregations on “unconditional love”; without giving enough perspective from the Old Testament, which causes much guilt and shame as well as confusion, in the hearts of many “conditional” parents, till up today.

Or you get the ‘earlier day’ churches, who hammered on God,’s wrath and planted only sin consciousness and punishment, which caused hard and bitter religiousness over decades. (My own take.)

I think the point I am trying to make is coming through. At least I hope so. Also I’d like to leave room for each one’s own thoughts and healing on this…..

I have received much.


Ps. The best path in this, I believe, is when husband and wife has found the Way to keep on reversing these “roles” when neccessary and if needed.

But thΓ‘t thought I leave to your own imagination. Be blessed!

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