When I loved myself enough……..Kim McMILLEN

Opgedra aan my twee prag dogters, Karlien en Willene, met wie ek altyd oor al hierdie dinge kan gesels.

Gister lees ek ‘n quote op FB oor “hê jouself lief; dan sal alles in plek val”….is die suggestie van die quote.🤔

Een dapper eerlike vrou êrens uit ‘n vêr land, antwoord onmiddelik onderaan hierdie quote: I don’t love myself, I don’t know how.

Skielik besef ek hoe maklik en gou preek ons hierdie woorde vir mekaar, of hoor ons dit in ‘n preek, maar niémand sê vir ons, hóé nie.

Dis net soos vergifnis. Ons weet ons moet mekaar vergewe. Dit is nie ‘n asemsnakkende openbaring nie. Ook ken ons die samevatting van die wet…..wat selfliefde insluit. Maar die “HOE” word selde, indien ooit, beantwoord, deur dié wie dit so graag vir ander preek.

Louis Malherbe het in een van sy boeke die volgende gedagte nagelaat wat my altyd by bly. Hy sê: “As jy na ‘n preek luister van iemand, en die preek antwoord nie die vraag, “HOE?” nie, hoef jy nie in daardie preek te gesit het nie.”

Woooouwh!!! Ek stem verskríklik saam met hierdie gedagte van Louis.

Ondersoek hierdie volgende wyshede en maak hulle jou eie. Vat jou tyd.

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Eers iets oor die skrywer hiervan:

WHEN I LOVE MYSELF ENOUGH, is a collection of wisdom, explaining to us, a wonderful journey in finding self compassion. Kim McMillen was a writer, a teacher and a volunteer Chaplain at Boulder Community Hospital. Copyright Kim McMillen, 1996.

In this writing of mine, I quote her words, the words I came to realise myself, over a period of time. I also formulated one or two of my own quotes. I salute this women for writing all of this. May her words of wisdom, live on for ever. It will.

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WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I learned to ask ‘Who in me is feeling this way?’ when I feel anxious, angry, restless or sad.

If I listen patiently I discover who needs my love.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH. .

I began to comprehend the complexity, mystery and vastness of my soul.

How foolish to think I can know the meaning of another’s life.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I quit projecting my strengths and weaknesses on to others and kept them as my own.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I accept the choices I made, that made me feel safe.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I realize the abuse in trying to force something or someone who isn’t ready – including me.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I began to accept the unacceptable.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.

My judgement called it disloyal.

Now I see it as self-loving.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH

I could tell the truth about my gifts and my limitations.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I recognized my courage and fear, my naivety and wisdom, and I make a place for each at my table.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I stopped trying to banish the critical voices from my head.

Now I say: “Thank you for your views” and they feel heard.

End of discussion.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I came to see how my anger teaches responsibility and my arrogance teaches humility, so I listen to both; carefully.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I came to know my own goodness and stopped comparing.

WHEN I LOVED MYSELF ENOUGH…

I started feeling all my feelings, not analysing them – really feeling them.

When I do, something amazing happens. Try it. You will see.

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SHALOM

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