The state of having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about something or someone.
This is not the same as having indifferences with someone. Ambivalence is a very REAL emotional energy field, which will push you to feel bad about yourself, or to be competitive. Uncertainty is the “fuel” here…..
For example: What the person say/declares…..and what he or she does, contradicts one another. This behaviour becomes extremely confusing, and such a person does not accept to be reprimanded. In other words, there is no hope in speaking about the confusing matter(s); or trying to sort it out. This is where all warning alarms should go on.
If you are in a state of hoping and trying (silently) that this confusing/conflicting energy will come right, sooner or later, chances are, you do not realize the state you find yourself in. The ROOTS are deeply hidden, and it will eventually cause you to distrust yourself and your own abilities.
Roots: Trust issues, Seperation anxiety, Self-confidence issues, as well as Intimacy issues.
I call this, the Love-Hate scenario. This is emotionally debilitating; meaning, making someone very weak and infirm. You feel “on-guard” all the time, and you get caught “off-guard” all the time!!!!
* One should know when to bail out.
* Don’t become the other person’s punching bag.
* Give it a good second shot……NOT a third.
* Go ahead and grieve.
* If you stay, know that you will become a victom of rivalry and intense dislike; as well as deep resentment.
* Think loving thoughts and let go.
* Say NO.
* Speak kindly of this person or thing to whom you have these mixed feelings.
* Remember: You come first in being spiritually healthy.
The undertone: JEALOUSY.
We all will come across this, sooner or later, or our own actions will cause this.
The grace in all of this is the Holy Spirit who will guide us, teach us, warn us and show us the right way through or out. This must and should never be faught in your own strength or strategies.
Remember what God says in Zechariah 4:6 Not by might, nor by power, but by My Spirit, says the Lord of hosts.